[Editor’s Note: a throwback…for context. It’s funny looking at things you wrote years ago and seeing how much you’ve (not) changed…anyway…enjoy]
So usually my Sundays go like this, I hop up out the bed; turn my swag on, feed Brady, go for a run, come back, shower, breakfast (you should eat before you work out…look I don’t need that now). Over breakfast, I’ll check emails and messages, and when I check in with people, its usually the same…
“I’m about to go to church”
“I’m about to hop on this Madden”
It’s pretty much split between the gender lines, women are do it for the Christ, men ain’t gon do it. I consider myself a God fearing man, I read the Bible occasionally, I’ve come a ways since I told you my struggles with faith well over a year ago. Yet I still don’t make it to church, I mean I have my excuses
1. Hello i clearly said I ran in the morning, Jesus be a recovery.
2. I’m a Christian in a conservative catholic town, and if I go into the city on a Sunday morning its probably for my favorite Jazz brunch.
3. Fantasy football.
In this year of our lord 2014, They stream sermons, I know preachers with podcasts, my heathenism is inexcusable. Nor is it for most men. Studies show 31% of men don’t attend church, like ever compared about 59% of women who attend at least one service a week or going by my contacts 87%. They too probably have their reasons
2. Don’t wanna be hypocrites (my favorite #cmonson excuse, the club full of hypocrites too)
3. They weren’t raised that way
4. Fantasy Football
But wait, none of those reasons are male centered, women work out, play fantasy football and lord do they love some brunch, so what makes them more able to go to church while men chill. You’d think the large number of women would be enough to compel men to go, find God’s match for you (c) Christian Mingle. I would say women are more likely to go to church because
1. More apt to submission (no hotep)…to Gods will
2. Safe community
3. Support system
There’s a vulnerability to church that not a lot of men accept. You work under someone’s else’s supervision all week, to pay other people. To add to it you are to spend another day sacrificing your free time under yet another dominion. You can’t not work, you can’t not pay your bills, skipping church, there’s no immediate consequence. Religion breeds accountability that men and women both struggle with, men all the more stubborn. Most of us start off in the church with our families, some of us go back with families of our own, its that middle period that most men just don’t bother. However it’s perhaps the most important time.
Men lack camaderie and support in their 20s-30s. We lack humility. Not to say this can’t be found outside of church but its also somewhere to start. I could lie and say I’ll be there Sunday (most likely I’ll be eating waffles and writing next weeks post…God ain’t thru with me yet…yes I’m going just use that copout after I wrote this whole post). I will say the primary reason men aren’t in church is that men aren’t in church. Too often the men we see in church are broken or exploitative and we don’t want to associate ourselves with either. We rather cultivate our own relationship with God alone, where no one else can see. And really, there’s nothing wrong with that. It would be nice if everyone could convene and worship together but whether its in the tabernacle or at my kitchen table, the message is still being delivered.