When you think of Frankenstein, you think big green monster not the egotistical, nefarious man who created him. Hell, the thing isn’t even named Frankenstein, but whatever. I say that to say this, too often we look at the “monster” created and not the creator. The abhorrent ex, crazy baby mama, the bitter friend, the jaded lover….its easier to just call them out for what they are and not look at who or what made them that way, that would require personal accountability and you just cant go for that like Hall and Oates. I’m the friend you begrudgingly ask for advice because I’m almost always going to circle back and ask you about the role you played. (Listens to groans from the “let me vent” crowd). Monsters don’t just appear, someone caused their creation, whether they want to admit it or not. I’m guilty of it too, I’ve created my fair share of dating Frankensteins and at least in hindsight I can look back and say, maybe I shouldn’t have led her on, maybe I could’ve communicated better, or that was just rude. Sorry and whatnot. Others, however, can live in a world of delusion, wondering “why me” because they cannot bring themselves to realize they are the cause of the problem. Its easier to just say the other person is tripping or not all there.
For example, just recently a situation arose between a relative and the mothers of his children. (I won’t divulge cuz #familybusiness) His opinion is the usual; they just crazy, he doesn’t know why this keeps happening to him. To his point, they not the brightest bulbs in the lamp. Then logic sets in and you realize, these things don’t just happen to people. If it was a book, you would be like “this is a major plot hole” but in real life we make that leap all the time. People don’t just sweat you for no reason. Women you never slept with don’t just claim you fathered your child (unless you’re famous). People don’t just catch feelings for people who aren’t leading them on. Friends don’t just do couple-y things for no reason (pewn..shot fired). We know these things, we understand them apparently yet we carry on as if we don’t. That’s not to say “Frankensteins” don’t naturally exist; (*thinks about the absurdity of this sentence*) plenty of people are just unhinged and obsessive. But they are the exception, not the rule. Most of the time you’re just being an asshole and wont admit it.
We live in an era where people tend to act insouciant to everything, cant react, cant communicate, whomever loves first loses. People (especially men if we’re being real) are barely allowed to emote anymore. Its become far too common to be an asshole, and then label the offended as if it came from nowhere. Behind most insecure “Frankensteins” there’s someone who didn’t reassure them, behind most sensitive “Frankensteins” there’s someone oblivious to how they’re interpreted, behind most emotional “Frankensteins” there’s someone who couldn’t communicate. The havoc they wreak that’s on you, and well if someone dates any of mine…..my bad.