It recently occured to me, Me and Her never did it.
Me and Reine did it frequently.
Me and Ms. Avo did it a few times, now we do it ourselves for the other one.
She hated when I did it alone, thought it was weird; even though she did all the time, I always caught her.
Of course, I’m talking about selfies. I detest the word but a self taken photograph sounds way too official for a picture of your reflection in the mirror or self controlled mugshot. For men, selfies have been a gift from gawd, especially when you can see anyone from your new boo to your favorite model or actress at any time without a photoshoot. As for men taking them; they get a bad rep. People point to vanity, narcissism and self importance. True, but its also capturing a moment in time, ego boosting and well, kinda necessary. Its a way to keep up with friends and family, a prominent part of dating now and well, I’m a grown ass man and will do what I please.
I have about 215 posts on Instagram, I would say bit less than a 3rd are “selfies”. When I joined 2 years ago it was a good way to keep track of my weight loss, I could visibly see my face thinning, arms toning etc, there was the added element of putting it out in public that let friends and family take notice and their additional support guided me (perhaps I need to start doing that more….cuz, yeah). I don’t think I’m over the top, the day I post 12 pics of the same damn outfit or start posing shirtless, please identify yourself as a reader and then kick me. You’ll never catch me posing by some car that isn’t mine, or wearing somebody else’s chain, or tonguing down a significant other. In that same vein, I want to see what my friends and family are up to, a Facebook update is just as efficient as that dusty wallet photo.
Selfies are a pretty big deal in dating as well. Men had a good run as “the visual creatures” but these days women tryna see something too. There’s still no country for dicktures, but isn’t a woman I met that hasn’t hit me with a picture inquiry of my face, my outfit, my dinner. Dating long distance? Its almost a prerequisite (cuz #catfish). Once again, selfies have replaced the wallet photo where a friend will quickly show a picture or social account of their newest flame
or conquest. And of course there’s the couple selfie; an unofficial rite of passage. Every girl I’ve dated probably has a picture of me, not every one has one with me. Shrug life.
We can pretend to hate selfies all we want, they aren’t going anywhere. The 50th President of the United States will probably pass on the official portrait and upload his or her own. Assuming they themselves don’t have any “other” selfies floating around the interwebs. Cuz, yeah.