So because its summer and my Red Sox are flat out depressing to watch, I been investing all my energy into keeping up with NBA Free Agency. What I find fascinating about it all, well besides the numbers, tax implications, evaluating contracts (after all I did go to school for sports management) is the all the guilt tripping the media, teams and fans are trying to do. Its easy for a fan to want their favorite player to stay on their favorite team even if that team has no chance in winning; or for a GM to come out publicly and try to shame a star for getting the most money they can, or ESPN to have a roundtable discussion about legacies and loyalty. Its all exploitative. Free agents should be able to do whatever they wish without having to feel bad about how much they got paid or the fans they leave behind, that’s the point of being free. These pros ain’t loyal, and they shouldn’t be. LeBron James is as obligated to take a pay cut as a single person is to be faithful to someone they aren’t with.
Whether its the one they broke up with 3 weeks ago, an e bae, workspouse, parent of their child, someone they just smashing, there’s always someone who assumes loyalty without doing the one thing that assumes loyalty which is enter a monogamous relationship. Instead again they guilt their way out of it “if he/she was serious they wouldn’t be still dating”, “don’t ask ‘what are we'”, and of course calling them a heaux for doing what all single people do. Hell, even people in a relationship have complete freedom to walk away from a bad situation but usually they don’t, even when they have a plethora of reasons to. These “pros” ain’t loyal. Loyalty has became more of a weakness than the strength its implicates. We don’t choose self as often as we ought to.
That’s not to say loyalty isn’t appreciated at all, I just don’t see it as a pre-requisite to a relationship. I wouldnt want a woman to be all about me while I’m still single. She’s “building trust and loyalty” that I’m not sure she’ll cash in on, so its like taking home tickets from the arcade that’s closing in a week. (Sidebar you notice how you never have enough tickets for anything you actually want except a slinky….conspiracy I say) I think when we’re content that “loyalty” comes anyway, but to flat out expect it, once again shows a lack of accountability. I could never ask someone I’m talking to, or just entertaining to amnesty everyone else for me without actually asking for a relationship. Of course, no one wants someone they care about basking in the affections of another but that’s the way it should be, claim or forfeit. But things never are that simple, no matter how much I try to make it be. This prose ain’t loyal.