One of my biggest turn offs is when a woman is too hard on an ex. We all love and lose but there’s nothing attractive about a lack of coping skills. Eventually, I’m not going to be the shiny new red ball in her life and if she can’t respect the previous men in her life, I’ll assume she won’t respect me. I think in essence we are all who we attract and while we all might have a blemish or two on our dating resumes eventually its time to look at the common denominator. To that same extent, no matter how the relationship ended, you’ll never hear a disparaging word about someone I loved. I don’t need to my current to even think twice about my ex, let alone hate her. Yet it seems I’m in the minority in that regard because between R&Buckfoy dominating the airwaves or Captain Save Ems carpe DMing women right after they spent the last hour bad mouthing the last dude, people don’t care about respect for others provided they are respected. They are content being an exception.
I don’t understand how women can sit and let their man call another woman out her name, or how a man is willing to sleep with a bad mother. How “I don’t hang with females” girl is okay with how her homies treat their girlfriends or how women turn up to “these heauxs aint loyal”. This twitter famous dude just leaked some girls nudes, let me send him some. Perhaps its ego to think that you’re so unlike anyone else they can’t possibly do that to you. You’re different, you’re special. Apparently.
I’ve spoken at length here about how at one point I was guilty of acquiring new love in lieu of reflecting on why the last one failed. I’ve also spoke on myself believe I was the exception. She cheated with me because I’m irresistible not because she’s just immature and constantly needs attention. She harassed her ex, there’s no way she’d do that to me if I treat her right. She dragged his name through the mud but he had it coming, I’m different. In all 3 scenarios, I wasn’t special, I wasn’t different, I was x in her algebraic equation of fuggery. Sometimes people are who they are.
I won’t go so far to say people don’t change, but I will say, we give others passes too often because we think it can’t happen to us. Maybe I’m alone in the idea that treating everyone like shit but me isn’t good enough. Poor character will always rear its ugly head, a bad temper will eventually go off, and disrespectful people will always disrespect people. Just say no to assholes, kids.