You know you’re getting old by how increasingly annoyed you get by young people. Case and point I’m on my way to work, I see a young couple playing around on the subway, she says something smart to him, he replies
“don’t make me Ray Rice you”. We exchange looks and I just shake my head at him, him and the girl continue their banter. His statement annoyed me because its similar to the types of jokes I was seeing all weekend on social media regarding the assault of Ravens RB Ray Rice on his fiancé Janay Palmer. People made references to Street Fighter, Chris Brown/Rihanna, the Cleveland Bus Driver etc, none of which I found remotely amusing. The video that surfaced that shows Rice dragging his unconscious fiancé out the elevator was disgusting, regardless of what new facts surface, he dragged the mother of his daughter like a Christmas tree in mid January; there’s nothing that rationalizes it.
What facts that have surfaced is that, Rice and Palmer are high school sweethearts with a history of fighting and that she perhaps started the altercation by spitting on him. Who gives a fuck. Its like the excuses people gave Chris Brown and the bus driver and its troubling how desensitized people have become to domestic violence, especially in high profile situations like this one. Putting hands on women is never cool and its sad how my peers are full of people who feel that somewhere down the line the playing field between men and women are level when it comes to physical violence.
That’s not to say women are free to jump in a man’s face. There’s a level of cowardice that comes with fighting someone when you know they can’t defend themselves. I’ve found myself in those situations but I was able to use restraint as I was raised to. One should respect your temper, if I was to lose myself and strike a woman, what is to happen when I’m disrespected again, it would only escalate and then you only end up in worse situations, like Jovan Belcher, who murdered his child’s mother before turning the gun on himself. Janay Palmer seems to be backing Ray and downplayed the entire ordeal which is a situation that we know all know way too well. I don’t believe its a reach that if Rice is given a slap on the wrist it can only go downhill from there. Personally, I think he should be cut immediately and prosecuted but as we’ve seen Chris Brown or even Floyd Mayweather, this will likely be a minor setback.
Now to bring this full circle, why is it we don’t care about this? There would be more press if Rice had a pregnant side chick than knocking out a 25 year old woman. Women beaters are punchline to jokes more than they are social pariahs. Assaults aren’t mistakes, they’re choices. I just wish they were taken more seriously, by the perpetrator, by the victims, by society.